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<p><a href="http://ta-nehisicoates.theatlantic.com/archives/2008/11/the_difficult_mindbending_and_complicted_case_of_interracial_dating.php">Listen up</a>:</p>
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<p>Look it&#8217;s hard enough to satisfy the basic carnal needs&#8211;it&#8217;s even harder to satisfy those needs, and satisfy the basic emotional and mental ones too. There is a good chance that your long-term relationship will one day fail. A great way to up the chances of truly epic fail, hot grits, I&#8217;m talking hot grits fail, burn down the mansion fail, is to shrink the pool of your potential partners.</p>
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