<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[The Dish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://dish.andrewsullivan.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Andrew Sullivan]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://dish.andrewsullivan.com/author/sullydish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[It&#8217;s So Personal: The&nbsp;Guilt]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p>A reader writes:</p> <blockquote> <p>This is a secret only my wife and best friend know. But there is something therapeutic about reliving this for a complete stranger...<img alt="Davinci" class="at-xid-6a00d83451c45669e201156fc53577970c " height="183" src="http://andrewsullivan.readymadeweb.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/06/6a00d83451c45669e201156fc53577970c-500wi.jpg" style="margin: 0px 0px 5px 5px;" width="141" /> </p> <p>My story begins about 8 years ago when I was 21, just out of an alcohol and drug treatment center and trying to pick up the pieces of my life. Against everything I had been told, I began seeing a&#0160;sweet, innocent, and naïve woman who had just graduated high school.&#0160;Being the asshole I was at this point in my life, I selfishly used her for sex. I suspect she felt an emotionally connection, as I led her on, but it was purely physical on my end. I am not proud of this, nor am I excusing it, but I was still very much an addict, even if I wasn&#39;t actively using.  Anyways, after only a few months of seeing one another I received a hysterical call. She had taken a home pregnancy test and it was positive. I told her to come over so we could discuss things. I realize now that I took advantage of her sweetness, innocence and naivety to convince her that an abortion was our best option.</p> </blockquote>]]></html><thumbnail_url><![CDATA[https://sullydish.files.wordpress.com/2009/06/6a00d83451c45669e201156fc53577970c-500wi.jpg?fit=440%2C330]]></thumbnail_url><thumbnail_width><![CDATA[120]]></thumbnail_width><thumbnail_height><![CDATA[167]]></thumbnail_height></oembed>