<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[The Dish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://dish.andrewsullivan.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Andrew Sullivan]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://dish.andrewsullivan.com/author/sullydish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[How to Lead an Empty Romantic&nbsp;Existence]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<em><span style="font-size: 12px;">by Conor Friedersdorf<br /></span></em><p>Do you know what should bother feminists (and everyone else too)? The Web site <a href="http://roissy.wordpress.com/">Roissy in DC</a>, written by a member of the &quot;pickup artist community&quot; that I upset in <a href="http://theamericanscene.com/2009/08/08/stop-negging-them-on">my prior posts</a> on &quot;the neg.&quot; Its author is begging to be the subject of&#0160;<a href="http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/display.php?id=2008">&#0160;an undercover investigative piece</a> written by the talented Angela Valdez. (I&#39;d enjoy an Amanda Marcotte post too). </p><div><p>A basic version of Roissy&#39;s worldview can be gleaned from <a href="http://roissy.wordpress.com/dating-market-value-test-for-women/">a quiz he has devised</a>. &quot;If you are a woman, this test will measure your dating market value,&quot; he writes. &quot;The higher the number, the better quality man&#0160;you can catch. The lower the number, the more likely&#0160;you will find yourself surrounded by cats.&quot; Click through to the quiz and it&#39;ll soon be evident why the author blogs anonymously. As a sometime DC resident, I would be fascinated to know which bars he frequents. I&#39;ll bet they&#39;ve got bottle service, which is basically an ingenious&#0160;douche-bag&#0160;tax designed by some unknown genius club owner years ago. My favorite anecdote involving bottle service comes from the This American Life episode &quot;<a href="http://www.thislife.org/radio_episode.aspx?episode=355">The Giant Pool of Money</a>.&quot; It concerns a young group of mortgage middlemen who feel special when they pay $1,000 a bottle for Crystal that is delivered to their tables as waitresses hold aloft sparklers. B list celebrities look on. (To be fair, Roissy would never himself pay for bottle service, as his <a href="http://roissy.wordpress.com/dating-market-value-test-for-men/">quiz for gentlemen</a> makes clear.)]]></html></oembed>