<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[The Dish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://dish.andrewsullivan.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Andrew Sullivan]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://dish.andrewsullivan.com/author/sullydish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[Debating Trauma, Ctd]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p>A reader writes:</p><blockquote><p>I am still thinking over the <a href="http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/the_daily_dish/2010/01/debating-trauma.html">interview</a> with Susan Clancy. I was sexually abused over a number of years. At first I did not know it was wrong. I was told it was punishment and, for a time, I accepted that. Over time I realized more and more that what was happening was wrong. As this realization increased so did the trauma (for lack of a better word). At that point I was not only a victim but, because of my acquiescing to abuse when it began, I felt that I bore some blame.</p> <p>To say that there is no trauma is to define trauma as only being the psychological effect at the time of the act. From my experience it is more progressive.</p> </blockquote>]]></html></oembed>