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<p>Walker&#39;s critical point (and beautifully put):</p>
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<p>The right to marry has been historically and remains the right to choose  a spouse and, with mutual consent, join together and form a household.  Race and gender restrictions shaped  <img alt="Weddingaisle" class="asset asset-image at-xid-6a00d83451c45669e2013485fd8291970c " src="https://sullydish.files.wordpress.com/2010/08/6a00d83451c45669e2013485fd8291970c-320wi.jpg" style="margin: 0px 0px 5px 5px;" /> marriage during eras of race and  gender inequality, but such restrictions were never part of the  historical core of the institution of marriage. Today, gender is not  relevant to the state in determining spouses’ obligations to each other  and to their dependents. Relative gender composition aside, same-sex  couples are situated identically to opposite-sex couples in terms of  their ability to perform the rights and obligations of marriage under  California law. Gender no longer forms an essential part of marriage;  marriage under law is a union of equals. </p>
<p>Plaintiffs seek to have the state recognize their committed  relationships, and plaintiffs’ relationships are consistent with the  core of the history, tradition and practice of marriage in the United  States. Perry and Stier seek to be spouses;they seek the mutual  obligation and honor that attend marriage, Zarrillo and Katami seek  recognition from the state that their union is “a coming together for  better or for worse, hopefully enduring, and intimate to the degree of  being sacred.” Griswold, 381 US at 486. Plaintiffs’ unions encompass the  historical purpose and form of marriage. Only the plaintiffs’ genders  relative to one another prevent California from giving their  relationships due recognition.</p>
<p>Plaintiffs do not seek recognition of a new right. To characterize  plaintiffs’ objective as “the right to same-sex marriage” would suggest  that plaintiffs seek something different from what opposite-sex couples  across the state enjoy —— namely, marriage. Rather, plaintiffs ask  California to recognize their relationships for what they are:  marriages.</p>
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<p>(Photo: the aisle of my own wedding ceremony.)</p>
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