<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[The Dish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://dish.andrewsullivan.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Andrew Sullivan]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://dish.andrewsullivan.com/author/sullydish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[Was DADT Better Than The Status Quo?&nbsp;Ctd]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p><em><span style="font-size: 8pt;">by Patrick Appel</span></em></p> <p>A reader writes:</p> <blockquote> <p>Worse. Undoubtably. Technically, that&#39;s always been the policy, so it didn&#39;t change much. But as a reader <a href="http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/the_daily_dish/2010/12/was-dadt-better-than-the-status-quo-ctd.html" target="_self">mentioned</a>, before DADT the policy was more about conduct at least in the minds of the commanding officers, not the mere mention of the fact that one was gay or had those inclinations.</p> <p>I joined the Army National Guard in 1988 and was called up for a time in Korea, Desert Storm and Bosnia. When I was called up for Desert Storm in 1991, I went overseas with my local unit. Several men there were my best friends (straight), including my commanding officer. There was something about going off to war that made my life clear. I had come out only months before being called up. I felt it was necessary to tell my commanding officer and I did. His response was, paraphrased, &quot;well, just conduct yourself like you always do.&quot;</p> <p>DADT ruined that detente.&#0160;</p> </blockquote>]]></html></oembed>