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<p><em><span style="font-size: 8pt;">by Zack Beauchamp</span></em></p>
<p>Dennis Whittle had just started writing a series of 100 blog posts <a href="http://www.denniswhittle.com/2011/08/100-days-of-gratitude-prelude.html" target="_self">appreciating</a> the people who had helped him most in life when his mother died unexpectedly. His first post in the series <a href="http://www.denniswhittle.com/2011/08/100-days-of-gratitude-day-1-lee-whittle.html" target="_self">became</a> her eulogy:</p>
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<p>To say my mom was an&#0160;iconoclast would be an understatement. &#0160;She came  from a hard-scrabble immigrant family that did not know how to provide  warmth to children. &#0160;For some reason, my mom decided that she would be  different, and she set out to create for herself and her kids a life of  love and affection. &#0160;Sometimes she drove us crazy with her compliments  and encouragement, especially since it was never offset with any  criticism. &#0160;It was only later in life that I realized how rare it is to <a href="http://www.denniswhittle.com/2011/08/in-defense-of-aid.html">grow up</a> with such a mother. &#0160;Last week my sister found my mom&#39;s calendar, and  on it was an entry for the following week that said &quot;Wednesday: make  sure to compliment [one of my siblings] on her photographs.&quot;&#0160;That pretty  much summed up my mom.</p>
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