<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[The Dish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://dish.andrewsullivan.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Andrew Sullivan]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://dish.andrewsullivan.com/author/sullydish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[Why Sober Up In&nbsp;Secret?]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[
<p>Paul Carr&#0160;<a href="http://byliner.com/paul-carr/stories/sober-is-my-new-drunk-excerpt" target="_self">thinks</a> Alcoholics Anonymous misses an important element of quitting alcohol for most people. From an excerpt of his new book,&#0160;<em><a href="http://byliner.com/originals/sober-is-my-new-drunk">Sober Is My New Drunk</a></em>:</p>
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<p>What is the good in confiding your weakness for booze to a roomful of people who are sworn not to utter a word of it to the outside world? How does that help when you’re at an office party and your boss insists you toast this month’s sales figures with a glass of cold beer? Your boss isn’t psychic.</p>
<p>When I decided to quit drinking, and when I realized that AA wasn’t for me, I knew I’d have to find a route to sobriety that was as public as possible. I knew that the only way I’d be able to reverse my reputation as a boozer would be to tell the whole world—or at least the part of the world I lived in—that I was quitting. &#8230; The key is for people you encounter on a day-to-day basis to be aware that you have a problem and are trying to fix it. Those people—not a group of well-meaning strangers in AA—are the ones who will be your greatest allies in quitting.</p>
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<p>Carr previously <a href="http://www.thefix.com/content/outing-myself-stay-sober" target="_self">wrote</a> about his strategy for <em>The Fix</em>. Kevin Gray <a href="http://www.thefix.com/content/the-real-statistics-of-aa7301" target="_self">examines</a> the success rate of AA and finds that others treatments, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, are often just as effective.</p>
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