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<p>Moshe Schulman left an ultra-Orthodox Jewish community in New York and found himself learning how to do much of what we take for granted, such as talking to members of the opposite sex. In a poignant <a href="http://www.tabletmag.com/jewish-life-and-religion/105321/my-forbidden-orthodox-love" target="_self">essay</a>, he describes falling for an Orthodox Jewish girl he was eventually forbidden to see:</p>
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<p>I couldn’t take my eyes off of the girl in the  FBI shirt, while she ate her pizza. I wondered why she was wearing a  shirt that said FBI. But I hoped that her secular clothes meant that she  had left the fold, too. She had crystal-blue eyes and a beautiful  smile. I wondered if this was love. I had learned the word &quot;love&quot; six  years earlier, when my grandmother yelled at me for signing a letter I  wrote to her, &quot;Sincerely, Moshe.&quot; I didn’t understand why that upset  her. Growing up, my parents and seven siblings didn’t hug me or use the  word &quot;love.&quot; Instead, they yelled and hit. To feel warmth, I wore layers  upon layers of clothing or lay down on the carpet where the sun was  shining.</p>
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