<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[The Dish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://dish.andrewsullivan.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Andrew Sullivan]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://dish.andrewsullivan.com/author/sullydish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[Unsurprising Facts About&nbsp;Friendship]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<span class="embed-youtube" style="text-align:center; display: block;"><iframe class='youtube-player' type='text/html' width='640' height='360' src='https://www.youtube.com/embed/_iBpTqp8nX8?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;fs=1&#038;autohide=2&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;wmode=transparent' allowfullscreen='true' style='border:0;'></iframe></span>
<p>Alice Gregory <a href="http://www.tnr.com/book/review/friendship-better-romance" target="_self">pans</a> Carlin Flora&#8217;s new book, <a href="http://www.amazon.com/Friendfluence-Surprising-Ways-Friends-Make/dp/0385535430/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1358889320&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=friendfluence" target="_self"><em>Friendfluence</em></a>, pejoratively labeling it an example of “laboratory-approved self-help” that misses most of what is actually fascinating about friendship:</p>
<blockquote><p>“Solid friendships can help you shed pounds, sleep better, stop smoking, and even survive a major illness,” Flora writes, and from the work of psychiatrists, evolutionary biologists, and anthropologists, she draws self-evident conclusions: companionship makes us happy, children who are valued amongst their peers do better in life, college students send more e-mails to their close friends than their acquaintances, friendships provide opportunities for storytelling. The banality of these conclusions provides a taste of the banality of this book. It is difficult, but apparently not impossible, to finish a 240-page nonfiction book and learn practically nothing.</p></blockquote>
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