<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[The Dish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://dish.andrewsullivan.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Andrew Sullivan]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://dish.andrewsullivan.com/author/sullydish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[What&#8217;s The Ideal Age For Household&nbsp;Gifts?]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p>With Americans getting married later and later in life, Yglesias <a href="http://www.slate.com/articles/life/weddings/2013/06/wedding_present_etiquette_let_s_do_away_with_wedding_registries_and_give.html">argues</a> that wedding presents no longer make sense because those getting married tend to already have the basics:</p>
<blockquote><p>At least among the higher-education set, it would be fair and wise to redirect the gift-giving impulse to a more logical occasion, like college graduation. The 21st century’s debt-laden new grads are at roughly the age and life circumstances that the wedding-present tradition is suited for. Launching a new household involves large up-front costs at a time when people haven’t yet had the chance to earn much money. A little help from both parents and a broader circle of aunts and uncles and sundry cousins would be welcome. Meanwhile, leave the newlyweds to fend for themselves. Your presence at their celebration should be its own reward.</p></blockquote>
<p>He <a href="http://www.slate.com/blogs/moneybox/2013/06/11/the_case_against_wedding_presents.html">responds</a> to his critics:</p>
<blockquote><p>The main pushback I&#8217;ve gotten is that the article seems written with a relatively educated relatively affluent audience in mind (i.e., <em>Slate</em>&#8216;s audience) and things may look different if we&#8217;re talking about a more financially strapped couple. Maybe so, but, of course, if you want to talk about poorer people then the <em>gift-givers</em> are going to be poorer as well, and fundamentally I think all the same points carry over mutadis [sic] mutandis.</p></blockquote>
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