<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[The Dish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://dish.andrewsullivan.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Andrew Sullivan]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://dish.andrewsullivan.com/author/sullydish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[&#8220;<i>Everybody Poops</i> For The World Of&nbsp;Sex&#8221;]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p><span class="embed-youtube" style="text-align:center; display: block;"><iframe class='youtube-player' type='text/html' width='640' height='360' src='https://www.youtube.com/embed/jxKyDxthvOI?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;fs=1&#038;autohide=2&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;wmode=transparent' allowfullscreen='true' style='border:0;'></iframe></span></p>
<p>Ashley Fetters <a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/entertainment/archive/2013/07/-i-the-to-do-list-i-s-radically-practical-message-about-virginity/278124/">appreciates</a> how the new film <em>The To Do List</em> disrupts standard teenage sex tropes<em>:</em></p>
<blockquote><p><em></em>[The film] presents a less common kind of story about a girl having sex for the first time. Brandy loses her virginity to Rusty &#8212; who&#8217;s clearly not the guy she&#8217;s &#8220;meant to be with&#8221; &#8212; then has a moment of thoughtfulness before meeting up with her best friends right in time to announce her recent banging of Rusty Waters and then catch the rest of <i>Beaches</i>. When Brandy&#8217;s dad (a hilariously anal-retentive Clark Gregg) discovers what&#8217;s happened and races to her rescue, a calm Brandy reassures him, &#8220;I&#8217;m fine, Dad. I&#8217;m OK.&#8221;</p>
<p>By sidestepping the &#8220;emotional-trauma-after-virginity-loss&#8221; construct and replacing it with giddy detail-spilling among friends, <i>The To Do List </i>sends up both a female onscreen teen-virginity trope and a male one: The &#8220;late-blooming virgin loses it to generically hot rando, comes away with high-five-worthy story to tell buddies&#8221; theme crops up more often in stories about teenage boys. (See: <i>American Pie</i>, <i>Sixteen Candles</i>, <i>Almost Famous</i>, <i>Porky&#8217;s</i>, <i>Road Trip</i>, <i>Losin&#8217; It &#8212; </i>and <i>Superbad</i>, kinda.) And perhaps more importantly, it provides a positive alternative outlook on what happens to girls who &#8220;give away their flower&#8221; or don&#8217;t &#8220;<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DuvGxB60xCQ">guard their carnal treasure</a>&#8220;: Sometimes, they&#8217;re pretty much fine.</p></blockquote>
]]></html></oembed>