those of you who are still in high school who are reading this will – more than likely – not be thinking about marriage at this stage of your lives and why should you? well here is one reason…

the PURPOSE OF DATING, as i see it, is for the most part to determine whether the person you are dating is a SUITABLE MATCH FOR YOU FOR MARRIAGE – even if at the moment you are not in a place or time when you are likely to be married soon [which is possibly why saving dating for once you’ve finished school might not be the craziest notion ever – i had my first girlfriend when i was 21 and i can’t imagine trying to deal with some of the physical/sexual temptations and struggles while still at school – it’s a tough ask] – i do know of a bunch of people who started dating while at school and ended up married and so it definitely can and does happen and is great when it does, but i think it CAN LEAD TO A LOT OF UNNECESSARY AND UNHELPFUL STUFF..

but the point i want to make here is this, IF YOU KNOW that the person you are dating is SOMEONE YOU COULD NEVER MARRY, then you are WASTING YOUR TIME and USING THE OTHER PERSON. i’m not saying you have to know with certainty that the person you date is definitely your future husband/wife. but i am saying IF YOU KNOW FOR SURE they aren’t that person, then don’t go out with them! not only are you using them, or possibly using each other, but you are seriously STANDING IN THE WAY OF THE OPPORTUNITY to meet and date the person who MAY BE YOUR FUTURE HUSBAND/WIFE.

[for the next blog on break-ups being a good thing, click here]