<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[Irresistibly Fish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[https://brettfish.wordpress.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[brettfish]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://brettfish.wordpress.com/author/brettfish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[your obituary starts&nbsp;here]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p><a href="https://brettfish.wordpress.com/2013/10/07/your-obituary-starts-here/tombstone/" rel="attachment wp-att-6186"><img loading="lazy" data-attachment-id="6186" data-permalink="https://brettfish.wordpress.com/2013/10/07/your-obituary-starts-here/tombstone/" data-orig-file="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/tombstone.jpg" data-orig-size="540,360" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;}" data-image-title="tombstone" data-image-description="" data-image-caption="" data-medium-file="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/tombstone.jpg?w=300" data-large-file="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/tombstone.jpg?w=540" class="aligncenter size-full wp-image-6186" alt="tombstone" src="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/tombstone.jpg?w=540&#038;h=360" width="540" height="360" srcset="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/tombstone.jpg 540w, https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/tombstone.jpg?w=150&amp;h=100 150w, https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2013/10/tombstone.jpg?w=300&amp;h=200 300w" sizes="(max-width: 540px) 100vw, 540px" /></a></p>
<p>i read an exercise in a book the other day that encouraged us to imagine that we had died:</p>
<p><em><strong>&#8216;what do you hope the people closest to you might say at your funeral?&#8217;</strong></em></p>
<p><em><strong>&#8216;what kind of obituary will they write about you for the local newspapeR?&#8217;</strong></em></p>
<p>[from<strong> Free: Spending your Time and Money on what matters most,</strong> by Mark Scandrette]</p>
<p>in answering those questions we have to realise that nothing is going to magically happen one day for those things to suddenly become true</p>
<p>if it&#8217;s not true now, then it&#8217;s very likely not going to suddenly be true later</p>
<p>the truth is, your obituary writing starts here</p>
<p>it starts now</p>
<p>and you write it</p>
<p>not physically, but by the way you live your life, how you speak, what you give your time and money to</p>
<p>do you think you would live life any differently if that was the first thought on your mind as you woke up to start a new day?</p>
<p><strong>my obituary starts here</strong></p>
<p>now, how am i going to live, to make it a good one?</p>
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