<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[Irresistibly Fish]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[https://brettfish.wordpress.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[brettfish]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://brettfish.wordpress.com/author/brettfish/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[Can you wear the other&#8217;s&nbsp;shoes?]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p style="text-align:center;"><a href="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2014/12/shoes.jpg"><img loading="lazy" data-attachment-id="10500" data-permalink="https://brettfish.wordpress.com/2014/12/19/can-you-wear-the-others-shoes/shoes/" data-orig-file="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2014/12/shoes.jpg" data-orig-size="260,194" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}" data-image-title="shoes" data-image-description="" data-image-caption="" data-medium-file="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2014/12/shoes.jpg?w=260" data-large-file="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2014/12/shoes.jpg?w=260" class="alignnone  wp-image-10500" src="https://brettfish.files.wordpress.com/2014/12/shoes.jpg?w=320&#038;h=242" alt="shoes" width="320" height="242" /></a></p>
<p>You know, the whole, &#8216;Before you criticise someone, walk a mile in their shoes&#8217; thing?</p>
<p>Following on from <a href="https://brettfish.wordpress.com/2014/12/17/why-economic-inequality-in-south-africa-is-not-a-race-thing"><strong>the post and conversation</strong></a> relating to inequality at the moment still being a race thing in South Africa, what might be a helpful activity is to take a look at how you understand the other person&#8217;s argument.</p>
<p>Are you able to jump into the comments and comment from the point of view of the person on the other side of the argument. So, as a white guy, can i comment as if i am a black guy [in terms of point of view] on the whole issue of reconciliation, land redistribution and equality within South Africa [and Americans, can you do this with your whole #Ferguson #BlackLivesMatter conversation]?</p>
<p>eg.  Because my grandparents were evicted from their land and forced to move into a less than favourable location, i feel that it is only fair for me to have the opportunity to return to where they originally lived and be given land there.</p>
<p>In terms of the Americaland situation it would be something more like:</p>
<p>eg. I am tired of explaining to my child why he should not wear his hoodie when he goes out at night.</p>
<p>It is clear from some of the conversations that have been happening on the blog and on Facebook that there is a lot of fear, insecurity and mistrust around a number of these issues and i&#8217;m wondering if taking a moment to articulate the other person&#8217;s argument [you don&#8217;t have to full agree with them or believe it, but just seeing if you get it] might help each of us to see better where they are coming from and understand their point of view.</p>
<p>i realise this is a little risky, but i think it could be valuable. Anyone willing to give it a try? Simply take one aspect of the argument or conversation so far and articulate it as if you were bringing it from the other point of view.</p>
<blockquote><p>Or as Jack Handey puts it, &#8216;Before you criticise a man, walk a mile in his shoes. That way you&#8217;ll be a mile away and have his shoes.&#8217;</p></blockquote>
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