<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[A Life in Libraries]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[https://cherylbecker.wordpress.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[cbecker53]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://cherylbecker.wordpress.com/author/cbecker53/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[Yes! I Mean. . .&nbsp;No!]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>So, librarianship is made up of lots of women. Don&#8217;t get me wrong; there are lots of men too. But the field is predominantly female. <a href="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/35481589.png"><img loading="lazy" data-attachment-id="6585" data-permalink="https://cherylbecker.wordpress.com/2015/07/20/yes-i-mean-no/attachment/35481589/" data-orig-file="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/35481589.png" data-orig-size="800,868" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}" data-image-title="No" data-image-description="" data-image-caption="" data-medium-file="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/35481589.png?w=276" data-large-file="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/35481589.png?w=800" class="alignright size-medium wp-image-6585" src="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/35481589.png?w=276&#038;h=300" alt="No" width="276" height="300" srcset="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/35481589.png?w=276&amp;h=300 276w, https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/35481589.png?w=552&amp;h=600 552w, https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2015/07/35481589.png?w=138&amp;h=150 138w" sizes="(max-width: 276px) 100vw, 276px" /></a>Nothing wrong with that. But here&#8217;s one thing that&#8217;s true of lots of women. We have trouble saying &#8220;No.&#8221; <!--more-->I&#8217;m not sure why. Perhaps we want to be liked and appreciated. Perhaps we have been brought up that way, to say &#8220;Yes&#8221; to please other people. Perhaps we want to be taken seriously, to prove that we can do anything a man can do, so we say &#8220;Yes.&#8221; To Everything. The result is: that sometimes you say yes to far, far too many things and cannot deliver on all of them. And you get burned out. This is NOT a Good Thing.</p></blockquote>
<p>So, we need to learn to say &#8220;No.&#8221; Not all the time. But some of the time. <a href="https://tz215.infusionsoft.com/app/hostedEmail/3273532/5396e6e3df32256e?inf_contact_key=fdc79744712a427f6036c4727bfa982c01a4e9b8b405d240fd63cb223cc4ead2" target="_blank">How to Say No in a Sticky Situation </a>will give you some tips on how to decide whether to say &#8220;No,&#8221; and how to say it. And here&#8217;s a preview:</p>
<blockquote><p>. . .  if you want to be authentic, you&#8217;ll need to learn to say &#8220;no.&#8221; It will feel uncomfortable at first, but it will also feel good &#8211; empowering. And it will free you up for the stuff you actually want to say &#8220;yes&#8221; to.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>I need to try these things. Wish me luck. And good luck to you, too!</p>
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