<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[A Life in Libraries]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[https://cherylbecker.wordpress.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[cbecker53]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://cherylbecker.wordpress.com/author/cbecker53/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[Feedback, not Criticism]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p>In a workplace, whether it&#8217;s a library or some other organization, we need rules for employees, and we need to get along and work together. Really, it&#8217;s the same as in a home and family. We need to meet certain standards of behavior.</p>
<p><a href="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2016/10/disagreement.jpg"><img loading="lazy" data-attachment-id="7143" data-permalink="https://cherylbecker.wordpress.com/2016/11/04/feedback-not-criticism/disagreement/" data-orig-file="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2016/10/disagreement.jpg" data-orig-size="1280,905" data-comments-opened="1" data-image-meta="{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}" data-image-title="disagreement" data-image-description="" data-image-caption="" data-medium-file="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2016/10/disagreement.jpg?w=300" data-large-file="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2016/10/disagreement.jpg?w=1024" class="aligncenter size-medium wp-image-7143" src="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2016/10/disagreement.jpg?w=300&#038;h=212" alt="disagreement" width="300" height="212" srcset="https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2016/10/disagreement.jpg?w=300&amp;h=212 300w, https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2016/10/disagreement.jpg?w=600&amp;h=424 600w, https://cherylbecker.files.wordpress.com/2016/10/disagreement.jpg?w=150&amp;h=106 150w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" /></a><!--more-->And when someone doesn&#8217;t meet those standards, they need feedback. Let me repeat, they need <em>feedback</em> that can help them improve. They do not need <em>criticism</em>.</p>
<blockquote><p><a href="http://www.oxforddictionaries.com/us/definition/american_english/feedback" target="_blank">Feedback</a> is providing information about your reaction to a product or to a person’s actions, to be used as a basis for improvement.</p></blockquote>
<p>Jesse Lyn Stoner once again provides us with a useful article on <a href="http://seapointcenter.com/criticism-boundaries-useful-feedback/" target="_blank">Criticism, Boundaries, and Useful Feedback</a>.  To get the full benefit, you&#8217;ll want to read the whole article. But for a preview, here are some of the tips she suggests for giving feedback:</p>
<ol>
<li>Be specific.</li>
<li>Direct feedback toward behavior the receiver can do something about.</li>
<li>Timing is important.</li>
<li>Make sure your communication was clear.</li>
</ol>
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