<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[Chateau Heartiste]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[https://heartiste.wordpress.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[CH]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://heartiste.wordpress.com/author/roissy/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[Science Continues Vindicating Heartistian&nbsp;Worldview]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p>In big and small ways, social science studies have a habit of confirming many CH precepts. The latest <a href="http://www.myfoxhouston.com/story/26714801/big-engagement-rings" target="_blank">finds that</a> expensive diamond engagement rings and expensive wedding ceremonies are inversely associated with marriage duration.</p>
<blockquote><p><a class="" title="" href="http://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2501480" target="_blank">This study</a> was done by professors from Emory University. They found that U.S. adults who spent large amounts of money on engagement rings and/or their weddings were more likely to end up divorced!</p>
<p>According to the research, men who spent $2,000 to $4,000 were 1.3 times more likely to end up divorced than men who spent $500 to $2,000.</p>
<p>And when it comes to weddings, if you have a wedding that costs more than $20,000, you&#8217;re more likely to end up in &#8220;Splitsville!&#8221;</p>
<p>The average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is $30,000, according to &#8220;The Knot.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>Expensive rings and weddings are classic <a href="https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2008/01/08/beta-game/" target="_blank">provider beta male game</a>. And, as science is showing and the Chateau has warned, beta male game is ultimately self-defeating. Women don&#8217;t fall in love with a wallet; they fall in love with a man. They don&#8217;t desire a mate guarder who has to pay fidelity money; they desire a self-assured jerkboy who expects love free of charge.</p>
<p>And if you&#8217;re dating a princess who demands a big ring or ostentatious wedding, my advice is simple: Run. Don&#8217;t look back. The next day, you can admire the bulge of your full bank account and your spared dignity. I just saved you from hitching yourself to a woman who couldn&#8217;t really love you without a large gift bag included in the deal.</p>
<p>What studies like this one uncover is a bidirectional sexual market feedback loop: On one vector, you have a weak man who feels it necessary to pay for love and supplicate to his fiancee&#8217;s gaudy selfishness. On the other vector, you have an unenthusiastic woman who knows she is settling for a less desirable man in a trade-off between exciting sexiness and boring security, and who therefore feels empowered to make her sloppy second beta pay tribute to her in Damegeld. Where these two vectors meet, <a href="https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2009/09/18/how-much-can-game-do/" target="_blank">relationship exactness and complementarity</a> trump love, and subcurrents of divorce are never far from cresting the polished dinner party surface.</p>
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