<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[Chateau Heartiste]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[https://heartiste.wordpress.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[CH]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://heartiste.wordpress.com/author/roissy/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[How To Handle A Disrespectful&nbsp;Girlfriend]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p>Recovering Beta has what I consider an important Game-related question about girlfriend management.</p>
<blockquote><p>Need game advice guys!</p>
<p>If a girl you been seeing starts to lose respect for you.</p>
<p>Do you call her out and say: &#8220;- I feel that I don&#8217;t get the respect and admiration from you and its a big turn off for me&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>jfc no. Pity ploys never work unless you&#8217;re a rape-y syrian refugee. That&#8217;ll only earn her growing contempt.</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8230;or something like &#8220;- Cut that shit off right now. I need respect from you or its over&#8221;?</p></blockquote>
<p>The first half of this response is good. But you should&#8217;ve stopped there. When you spell out the reason for your demand, it loses potency. Telling a girl you &#8220;need respect&#8221; is borderline mewling. If you have to ask for it, you don&#8217;t deserve it, and you&#8217;re not getting it.</p>
<blockquote><p>Because I believe respect is something a guy earns, not demand and calling a girl out on this may even make her feel even less respectful for you.<br />
Because I just admitted to her that she is losing respect for me, something she might even noticed herself.</p>
<p>What to do?</p></blockquote>
<p>Exactly, you verbalized the reality of her disrespect, validating it in her mind. Instead of causing her to reconsider treating you shittily, she&#8217;ll double down in the reconfirmed belief that you&#8217;re not worth her feminine respect.</p>
<p>What you should do is call her out when she disrespects you, but without airing demands for more &#8220;respect&#8221; that you feel you &#8220;aren&#8217;t getting&#8221;, which will almost always sound like the butthurt pleas of a lower value man. Just tell her to cut the bullshit, and if she keeps it up, kick her out (or kick yourself out).</p>
<p>If she&#8217;s disrespecting you as a shit test of your character because you&#8217;ve acted too beta of late for her taste, then slapping her with the verbal pimp hand and walking out if she doesn&#8217;t comply will encourage her to reassess your alpha cred, and she&#8217;ll likely come back to you full of apology and begging for a reconciliation bang.</p>
<p>If, otoh, she&#8217;s disrespecting you because she has lost that loving feeling and is just fishing for a way out, then walking yourself out of her life will give her the denouement she wants while preserving your masculine dignity. Either way, you win.</p>
<p>This is the short-term solution. Long-term, you&#8217;ll want to apply some patented CH <a href="https://heartiste.wordpress.com/2008/03/27/dread/">Dread Game</a> to permanently reorient her behavior towards a more respectful tone. There are only so many times you can tell a girl to cut the shit before her excessive need to be dominated and told to shut up soils your spirit. You want to avoid girls who <em>incessantly</em> crave their disciplining; this is the kind of shrew who will cheat the moment you slip up and forget to administer her daily ration of taming.</p>
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