<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[the feminist librarian]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://thefeministlibrarian.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Anna Clutterbuck-Cook]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://thefeministlibrarian.com/author/feministlib/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[sunday smut: links list on sex and gender (no.&nbsp;10)]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p><a href="https://thefeministlibrarian.files.wordpress.com/2010/02/f9f0d-victoria_nude.jpg"><img src="https://thefeministlibrarian.files.wordpress.com/2010/02/f9f0d-victoria_nude.jpg?w=172" border="0" title="Nude woman facing the camera with her arms crossed loosely below her breasts, leaning against the left-hand side of the frame, head tilted downward. The background is dark blacks and blues while her skin is oranges and yellows, her hair brown. Image title Victoria - Nude woman painting at Whitebird Cafe by Tarjin Rahman, available at Flickr.com. Link at the bottom of post." /></a>&#8220;Turkish police have recovered the body of a 16-year-old girl they say was buried alive by relatives in an &#8220;honour&#8221; killing carried out as punishment for talking to boys.&#8221; <b>Robert Tait @ The Guardian</b> wins for &#8220;most horrific sexuality and gender related story of the week&#8221; with his story of <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2010/feb/04/girl-buried-alive-turkey">a Turkish teenager who was killed by her family</a> for transgressing their expectations of appropriately feminine behavior. I wish to point out that, rather than demonstrating some yawning chasm between &#8220;West&#8221; and &#8220;East,&#8221; this sort of action should be seen as a symptom of our <em>global</em> preoccupation with the <a href="http://annajcook.blogspot.com/2009/04/booknotes-purity-myth.html">purity</a> and <a href="http://annajcook.blogspot.com/2010/01/booknotes-virginity-is-not-opposite-of.html">virginity</a> of girls and women.  </p>
<p>&#8220;It&#8217;s maddening that the people who want to take away women&#8217;s right to choose have annexed &#8220;choice&#8221; to their own cause. If the law compelled women like Sarah and Bristol Palin and Pam Tebow to continue problem pregnancies, there would be no heroism in doing so&#8211;you don&#8217;t get much credit for taking the difficult path if that&#8217;s your only option.&#8221; <b>Katha Politt @ The Nation</b> vents about the current politics of abortion in her <a href="http://www.thenation.com/doc/20100222/pollitt">latest &#8220;Subject to Debate&#8221; column</a>.  </p>
<p>&#8220;One of Blankenhorn’s leading concerns is with the well-being of children. He has argued, citing solid studies that corroborate this, that children raised by single parents are, as a group, at a disadvantage, and that having two married parents is a boon to children. But surely this raises the question: wouldn’t same-sex marriage help the children of same-sex couples&#8230;?&#8221; <b>Margaret Talbot @ The New Yorker News Desk</b> wonders why the pro-gay-marriage side in the Prop. 8 case hasn&#8217;t pushed the antis harder on the question of how gay marriage will hurt families in <a href="http://www.newyorker.com/online/blogs/newsdesk/2010/01/gay-marriage-and-single-parents.html">Gay Marriage and Single Parents</a>.</p>
<p>And further, <b>Talbot</b> suggests that &#8220;You sometimes hear it said that a courtroom is not the best venue for playing out battles in the culture wars [yet] a courtroom can also be a great and theatrical classroom, where the values of thoroughness, precision in speech, and the obligation to reply have a way of laying bare the fundamentals of certain rhetorical positions.&#8221; See <a href="http://www.newyorker.com/online/blogs/newsdesk/2010/02/the-gay-marriage-classroom.html">The Gay-Marriage Classroom</a>.</p>
<p>&#8220;I’m not sure. Can your partner be your best friend? If so, can you still have other best friends? And if they can’t be your best friend, then what are they?&#8221; <b>Essin&#8217; Em @ Sexuality Happens</b> muses about the delicate line between &#8220;friend&#8221; and &#8220;significant other&#8221; in <a href="http://essin-em.com/2010/01/my-new-best-friend/">My New Best Friend</a>. </p>
<p>&#8220;When I close my laptop and head to work, I&#8217;m not exactly sure what&#8217;s going on in the world, but I do kind of question whether I&#8217;m pretty or young-looking enough to navigate it.&#8221; <b>Christina C. @ the Women&#8217;s Rights Blog</b> argues that science reporting on &#8220;studies&#8221; supposedly determining optimal human attractiveness are as biased as the advice columns in women&#8217;s fashion magazines in <a href="http://womensrights.change.org/blog/view/sexy_science_from_lips_to_hips_to_cheeks_studies_rank_women">Sexy Science: From Lips to Hips to Cheeks, Studies Rank Women</a>.</p>
<p>&#8220;Recent hopes that Apple was about to unveil an electronic device that could do absolutely anything were dashed when it became obvious that the iPad cannot in fact locate the G-spot. Nor can it fit in your handbag, which is another reason why women are disappointed by it.&#8221; <b>The Independent</b> weighs in on the kerfluffle about women&#8217;s sexual pleasure and &#8220;the geographical whimsy with which the mystical G-spot appears to operate (or not)&#8221; in <a href="http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/romance-passion/yes-yes-yes-no-yes-in-search-of-the-gspot-1884304.html">Yes, Yes, Yes, No, Yes!</a></p>
<p>In other sex-meets-science news, <b>Jill Filopovic @ The Guardian</b> <a href="http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2010/feb/05/abstinence-only-sex-education">comments on the latest study on abstinence-until-marriage propaganda</a> in sex education. &#8220;If there is one thing that has proven true throughout human history, it&#8217;s that people like – scratch that, <em>love</em> – to have sex&#8230;Of course, for a lot of us, the &#8216;going forth&#8217; part is more desirable than the actual multiplying, and so human beings have also spent centuries trying to separate one from the other.&#8221; </p>
<p><b>And finally, for your &#8220;weird but true&#8221; story of the week:</b> &#8220;Senator Saxby Chambliss, the Georgia Republican, warned [in Senate hearings] that &#8216;the presence in the armed forces of persons who demonstrate a propensity or intent to engage in homosexual acts&#8217; would be likely to create an atmosphere susceptible to &#8216;alcohol use, adultery, fraternization, and body art.'&#8221; <b>Lauren Collins @ The New Yorker News Desk</b> reports on the Senate hearings about the military&#8217;s &#8220;don&#8217;t ask, don&#8217;t tell&#8221; policy concerning sexual orientation and kindly alerted me to the hitherto <a href="http://www.newyorker.com/online/blogs/newsdesk/2010/02/dont-ask-dont-ink.html">under-reported link between same-sex attraction and the desire for ink</a>.</p>
<p><em>Note to self: must really see about getting that tattoo I keep talking about.</em></p>
<p>*image credit: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/tarjin/2491874308/">Victoria &#8211; Nude woman painting at Whitebird Cafe by Tarjin Rahman</a> @ Flickr.</p>
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