<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8" standalone="yes"?><oembed><version><![CDATA[1.0]]></version><provider_name><![CDATA[the feminist librarian]]></provider_name><provider_url><![CDATA[http://thefeministlibrarian.com]]></provider_url><author_name><![CDATA[Anna Clutterbuck-Cook]]></author_name><author_url><![CDATA[https://thefeministlibrarian.com/author/feministlib/]]></author_url><title><![CDATA[&#8220;come as you are&#8221; is finally&nbsp;here!]]></title><type><![CDATA[link]]></type><html><![CDATA[<p>[UPDATE: The embed function isn&#8217;t working so for now, here is the interview I tried to embed: <a href="http://radioboston.wbur.org/2015/03/12/emily-nagoski">7 Sex Education Lessons From Emily Nagoski&#8217;s Come As You Are</a>]</p>
<p>Back in 2010 I discovered this quirky blog, <a href="http://thefeministlibrarian.com/2010/07/22/in-love-with-new-blogs-emily-nagoski-sex-nerd/">Emily Nagoski ::sex nerd::</a>, that that gave me a term, &#8220;sex nerd,&#8221; for how I approach thinking about and exploring human sexuality. Over the past five years, I&#8217;ve had the pleasure of engaging as a commenter on Emily&#8217;s blog, discussing human sexuality via email, and serving as a reviewer on early drafts of what is not being published as <em><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090/">Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life</a> </em>(Simon and Schuster, 2015).</p>
<p>(Emily, I&#8217;m so glad you stuck with this title, as it has been a playful favorite of mine since you first tried it out!)</p>
<p>I haven&#8217;t always been a fan of every population-level generalization Emily makes about cis female sexuality &#8212; that is, some of her generalizations haven&#8217;t rung true with the way I, personally, experience arousal and desire &#8212; but hey, that&#8217;s what scientists mean when they talk about what is <em>generally</em> for the population under discussion. (See? Because I read ::sex nerd:: back in the day, I can make that distinction now!)</p>
<p>So I&#8217;m pleased to see all of the exposure that Emily&#8217;s getting, what with her <a href="http://www.thedirtynormal.com/blog/2015/02/27/what-its-like-to-write-a-new-york-times-op-ed/">recent op-ed in the New York Times</a> and the extended conversation above, which appeared on the local WBUR show &#8220;<a href="http://radioboston.wbur.org/2015/03/12/emily-nagoski">Radio Boston</a>&#8221; last week. I hope if this is the sort of thing that interests you (or you think it will interest a person in your life) you&#8217;ll take a look at or listen to what she has to say!</p>
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